Basic Information

Parent 1 Name *

Parent 2 Name *

Email Address (to receive your agreement) *

We'll send your completed agreement to this email address

Nickname and Address of Child(ren)'s Home

A simple name helps everyone know which home you're referring to

Secondary Home

Are you sharing a secondary home (where the "off-duty" parent stays)?

Yes, we're sharing a secondary home

No, we each have our own separate space

1. Transition Schedule

Define when each parent's time in the family home begins and ends. Be specific about times to avoid confusion.

Regular Transition Time

What time does one parent leave and the other arrive?

Weekly Schedule: Which parent will be at the child(ren)'s home each night?

Week 1:

Week 2:

Enter parent names or initials for each day

Notes on schedule variations or holidays

2. Space Standards for Child(ren)'s Home

Being specific about how spaces should be left helps prevent frustration. Check all that apply for each area.

Kitchen

Sink empty of dishes

Dishwasher emptied (if clean) or loaded and run (if dirty)

Coffee machine cleaned (no grounds)

Counters wiped down

Trash taken out if full

Other kitchen standards

Bedroom

Sheets stripped from bed (next parent makes bed)

Bed made with fresh sheets

Personal items stored in designated space

Other bedroom standards

Bathroom

Toiletries stored in designated space

Towels hung up / in hamper

Surfaces wiped down

Other bathroom standards

Common Areas

Living areas tidied

Children's toys put away

Other common area standards

Food & Groceries

No expectation that food will be available/provided

Basic staples maintained (milk, bread, etc.)

Shared grocery system (see Joint Responsibilities)

Food arrangement details

Space condition standards in other areas of the home

3. Space Standards for Secondary Home

These are the expectations for the shared "off-duty" space.

Kitchen

Sink empty of dishes

Dishwasher emptied (if clean) or loaded and run (if dirty)

Coffee machine cleaned (no grounds)

Counters wiped down

Trash taken out if full

Other kitchen standards

Bedroom

Sheets stripped from bed (next parent makes bed)

Bed made with fresh sheets

Personal items stored in designated space

Other bedroom standards

Bathroom

Toiletries stored in designated space

Towels hung up / in hamper

Surfaces wiped down

Other bathroom standards

Common Areas

Living areas tidied

Children's toys put away

Other common area standards

Food & Groceries

No expectation that food will be available/provided

Basic staples maintained (milk, bread, etc.)

Shared grocery system

Food arrangement details

Space condition standards in other areas of the secondary home

4. Individual Responsibilities

Assign specific recurring tasks to each parent. This creates clarity and prevents tasks from falling through the cracks.

Parent 1's Responsibilities

Parent 2's Responsibilities

5. Joint Responsibilities

Some tasks are best handled collaboratively or on a rotating basis. Define how these will be managed.

6. Personal Items & Storage

Clarify what personal items can be kept at the shared space(s) and where they should be stored.

Storage location for Parent 1

Storage location for Parent 2

Items that must travel with each parent

7. Communication About the Space

Agree on how you'll communicate about space-related matters, supply needs, or issues that arise.

Preferred communication method for routine matters

How to handle urgent issues (e.g., appliance breakdown)

How to request changes to this arrangement

8. New Partners

What is your agreement about new partners in the Secondary Home?

New partners are allowed in the Secondary Home

No new partners are allowed in the Secondary Home

No new partners for now, but we'll revisit this later

9. Ending the Nesting Arrangement (The Nesting Offramp)

Nesting is typically a transitional arrangement. Having a clear process for ending it helps ensure a smooth transition when the time comes.

Notice period required to end the arrangement

How much advance notice should be given?

Either parent can request an end to the nesting arrangement with written notice

When such a request is made, either parent may request a joint co-parenting coaching session to create a transition plan

Anticipated end date (if known)

Other transition terms

Nesting Agreement Builder

Basic Information

Secondary Home

1. Transition Schedule

2. Space Standards for Child(ren)'s Home

Kitchen

Bedroom

Bathroom

Common Areas

Food & Groceries

3. Space Standards for Secondary Home

Kitchen

Bedroom

Bathroom

Common Areas

Food & Groceries

4. Individual Responsibilities

5. Joint Responsibilities

6. Personal Items & Storage

7. Communication About the Space

8. New Partners

9. Ending the Nesting Arrangement (The Nesting Offramp)

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